I Came Here for a Purpose Greater Than Myself.

I Came Here for a Purpose Greater Than Myself.

Namsik Yoo was excited to join a yearlong leadership program after graduating high school in the United States. Throughout the year he would travel around the world to places like Korea, Philippines, Columbia and Nepal. It was in Nepal that he would learn a valuable lesson in serving others not just as a “nice thing” to do, but an essential quality of becoming a life-long leader.

Leadership Task Force (LTF) provides opportunities for young adults to practice and develop skills that will help them become leaders in their families and communities when they return home after the one-year program. Service projects are a major component of helping LTF participants reflect on their own spiritual growth and put their goals into action.

Raising funds for the project in Nepal.

Namsik and his LTF family didn’t just show up one day at the doors of Nepalese children and families in need. It required a lot of preparation and organization, all of which him and his team were responsible for. This included fundraising for building materials and coming up with activities for community bonding before even taking the flight to Nepal.

“Whenever I was going through a hardship during fundraising, I would always tell myself to think about the children who are waiting for us in Nepal,” said Namsik. “Whenever planning out the activities with my team members, I would keep asking myself, ‘What do the Nepali people need?’”

Namsik didn’t just want to lift and move objects in a one-time service project; he wanted to come up with specific solutions to the hardships facing Nepalese families in remote areas affected by natural disasters. More importantly, Namsik wanted to help foster a sense of community, a family-bond, to transform others and himself in the process. He learned the importance of becoming an owner of change. The process of serving others starts long before getting your hands dirty. It starts inside yourself.

Namsik being welcomed by elementary school students in Parapakar.

“If I had just gone to Nepal with everything already prepared and I had not done anything before coming, then there would be nothing I could offer besides some small service work and making friends. Most importantly, without internally preparing myself, I would not be able to contribute in allowing the people we meet to feel any sort of transformation. The fundraising that we did was not just simply raising money to support the activities we will be doing in Nepal, and the project planning was not just simply organizing the activities, but this was a process of putting sincere effort into something greater than ourselves.”

 

Campus to Community and Back Again

Campus to Community and Back Again

As obtaining a college education has progressively become the norm in the United States, it also has, unsurprisingly, become a meaningful time of discovery in every young person’s life. In deciding and pursuing a field of study, they are also seeking to define the impact they might make in the world.

Yoshitaka Goto recently graduated from the University of Washington with his Bachelor’s in Bioengineering. His unique adventure from his freshman year to his graduation was featured on the UW website. Here he credits his life-changing experience on Leadership Task Force (LTF) as a driving force to achieving his spiritual goals through his academic pursuits.

In school, Yoshi was actively involved in Bioengineering programs like iGEM in which his team placed at the 2016 and 2017 international competition. He also took on leadership positions as an officer in campus groups and volunteered for Family Peace Association in his spare time. It wasn’t easy.

“My freshman year at UW was a huge culture and lifestyle shock,” said Yoshi. “I didn’t know how to study, I didn’t know how to take exams, and I had friends who wanted to go into BioE who would do much better than me in classes. By the end of freshman year, I felt that I wasn’t cut out to be in BioE and actually thought about dropping out of the major.”

At first discouraged, Yoshi was looking for motivation and purpose. This is his story:

Leadership Task Force hike until the top of Mount Jiri in South Korea.

At that point, I was very stressed and thought, ‘This is not going well,’ so I actually took a year off. I ended up going on an overseas leadership program called Leadership Task Force, a pilot program by the Family Peace Association which brought together college students from all over the world. We were based at their headquarters in Korea, and from there we developed teamwork, organization, and speaking skills to effectively raise funds and run service or educational projects in other countries. I went to the Philippines, Nepal, Malaysia, and Mongolia, and at every location, my team and I partnered with the local communities to provide a long-term and sustainable service.

I came back with more willingness to engage with people and to take more responsibility, but at the same time, I had a more open mind of what was available to me. I realized that UW is a big place, which is a little overwhelming. But it also has every single opportunity you can think of if you look for it. I came back basically a different person, and I had a better sense of purpose of why I wanted to go through university and be in the BioE program.

Yoshitaka Goto leading a children’s workshop in Mongolia

I personally believe that every single human being wants to help other people. And they might not be doing it the right way, or people might not agree that they’re doing it the right way, but I do believe every person on earth wants to help other people. A lot of people who say ‘I don’t know what I want to do’ are still passionate about something. I think that if you have those interests and you’re clueless, I recommend stepping out of your comfort zone and what you ‘should’ be doing, and trying something different.

Success in academics and life itself is a result of hard work and more importantly, the determination and passion to learn and create something that will bring benefit to many people. As Yoshi discovered in his service to others around the world, true satisfaction and fulfillment come from living a life of purpose, especially when that purpose is to live a life for the sake of others. This purpose instills motivation that can fuel your passion for a lifetime.

Programs such as FPA’s Leadership Task Force, aim to provide this kind of education and experience for this critical period of life.  To learn more about LTF and other programs, click here.

 

Gift of Gratitude from Mom

Gift of Gratitude from Mom

Starting from the gift of life, parents impart values, experiences, and attitudes that will shape their children for the rest of their lives. Now in his early twenties, Kensu has gone from receiving care to giving care to his mom and reflected on the attitudes he has been able to foster in himself thanks to his parents. This is his story.

My mom has had to go through many difficulties with her health after suffering from kidney failure. Physically, every day can be a challenge. But even in these challenges, as her son, she has given me the gift of gratitude and the ability to take on a positive attitude in spite of the difficulties.

For instance, the first time I went to the emergency room with my mom, I was frightened by what was happening and I didn’t know what to do. In the ambulance, I didn’t know how to feel. The day after going into the emergency room and then being admitted to the hospital, I went home and went back and what I saw changed how I looked at challenges in life. Walking into the room my mom was slightly sitting up and what I saw was a smile of gratitude in knowing she has family who is there for her. Through that, I knew she was feeling a little better but it also gave me the experience to learn what gratitude is.

Through these experiences, I think of it as a kind of attitude “restart.” In difficult times it can be easy to get absorbed in self-pity. But when I see how people like my mom, who has to face daily challenges but still finds time to think of and serve others, I am reminded to look beyond my own limitations and face them as an opportunity for a new start.

Even when she couldn’t walk anywhere, she would make food for others and ask me to deliver it to our neighbors. She always tries to give with a smile on her face.

Like many great mothers, mine taught me to not sulk in the disadvantages of life, but to be grateful for what I already had and use my advantages, skills, knowledge, time and energy to benefit the people and community around me.

There is good in every situation.

Life Lesson From a 9-Month-Old

Life Lesson From a 9-Month-Old

“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.”

Following is a reflection from a mother of a 9-month-old. Watching her son grow, she has realized that she grows because of how he lives – always pushing his limits, always learning, not afraid of challenges and pain, and never giving up.

He’s only lived nine months. But in his nine months, he’s grown in leaps and bounds.

His arms are now pleasingly pudgy. We endearingly call him “thunder thighs.” His cheeks have filled out, making his face the shape of a cute peach. From this little person, I’ve learned that life is about striving to become better.

I recall holding him at the time of his birth. I could count the things he could do on my fingers: breathe, sleep, poo, eat, yawn, and open his eyes to watch the new world around him. At that time, he couldn’t even burp on his own. Yet, every little accomplishment was special to us. His cousins would coo every time he opened his eyes and a gas smile crossed his face. We would celebrate every time a burp escaped his lips.

Just a few months later he started trying to roll over to see a different angle of the world. It was hard at first, even painful when his arm got stuck behind his belly in mid-roll. But he never gave up. Eventually, we would all celebrate when he made his full roll over from belly to back, and then again when he figured how to roll from back to belly.

But he didn’t stop there. Next, he started gaining confidence in sitting. But it was no easy feat. He would fall over, landing on his face, or fall backward, hitting his head on the floor. Every time he would cry out in pain, but get up to try again after the tears cleared. Eventually, he became adept at sitting. He discovered in that position he could see people right-side-up, and grab for toys and garbage.

But as soon as he learned to sit, he realized there was a world beyond his grip. He needed to learn how to move from one place to the other. Slowly he started reaching his arms forward. Sometimes he would be stuck on all fours. He would hold and reach as long as possible until he collapsed from exhaustion. But he would not give up. Slowly, the daily training built up muscles where he never had muscles before, and be began to move forward. At first, it was more of a worm wiggle forward, as he dragged his legs behind, then he built capacity to go up on all fours. Today he is quick as lightning, especially when his sister drops a tasty morsel from the table.

But, that hasn’t stopped him – he is on to new grounds. These days he practices squats to build his leg muscles. He can stand on his own, a fact that he is very proud of. But it didn’t come without pain. There were lots of falls and head bumps along the way. He aims to walk like his elder cousins and siblings. Maybe someday run.

He impresses me. He has taught me that life should be lived like he lives it, always striving to become more, always reaching for the next step of development. He never gives up. He’s always ready to go. He faces the pain of starting a new thing without hesitation, and gets up after every fall, ready to try again. And as he goes through that process, he grows.

Sometimes I get complacent, satisfied with where I’ve come and what I’ve come to master. But seeing how my little one lives life with so much gusto – pushing himself at every turn and accomplishing so much in a short nine months, reminds me of how much more I could do if I retained that same mindset – to always learn, and always reach for more. This lesson can apply in all areas of our life – our spirituality, our relationships, our job and community engagement.

He has taught his siblings as well. His older brother gives credit to his little brother. “I learned to never give up and always do my best from my little brother.” He received a certificate of recognition for his efforts this year.

Amazing what we can learn from a nine-month-old.

When I Talk to Dad, Everything Seems Possible

When I Talk to Dad, Everything Seems Possible

“I need to talk to my dad more,” Jin said with a relieved smile.

It had been months since Jin could have a deep father-son talk but Dad had just returned from a business trip and that evening  the two of them spent almost 4 hours catching up. From financial planning, future goals, mom’s health and recent life lessons, they had a lot to talk about.

Between school, work, social events and the demands of everyday life, they had been too busy.

But the last hiatus was important. After talking with Dad, Jin realized how many thoughts, worries, and inspirations could build up inside when he didn’t check in regularly with Dad. He also realized how many things could be resolved simply by talking things out with Dad.

It was kind of a realignment when they talked; a time to get on the same wavelength. Dad, being on the outside of Jin’s life, could present a different perspective. When they talked, they identified the priorities, the large rocks of life, which helped map out where the smaller, but just as important things could go, and which ones he could just let go of.

Talking to Dad also made the impossible seem possible. Most recently, Jin had been contemplating the next few years of his life. Should he go to school right away or not? If he did, could he be financially responsible? Along with those questions came the bigger questions that impacted those answer – like did he know what he wanted to do with the rest of his life? And was he where he wanted to be at this point in his life? As he talked to Dad, these stressful questions that sat in Jin’s gut got unraveled, reformed, and made into an opportunity for growth.

He realized that life didn’t rest merely on what he did, but how he grew from his different experiences. He realized that more than making the “right” choice, he should take responsibility for his choices. He also affirmed his long-term goals which included family life and career. After talking to Dad, the next few years seemed less daunting and more exciting. The past few years looked less ambiguous, and more purposeful.

“God was wise to give each child parents,” reflected Jin.

The parent-child relationship is one of unconditional, absolute and eternal love. Such an unmovable foundation is the wellspring of confidence, innovation and solutions.

Parents, have you talked to your children recently?

Children, have you talked to your parents recently?

Don’t be “too busy.” You may be surprised what fruits can come out of that conversation.

Letter from Mom

Letter from Mom

To My Children:

I wanted to take time this Mother’s Day to write this note to you.

There have been so many moments this past year, where I’ve composed this letter in my head to say, “Thank you.” So, what better day than Mother’s Day to tell you, my wonderful and, at times, let’s say “challenging,” children.

I am the most blessed woman in the world because I am your mother.

Without all of you, I would never have experienced what it is to be a mother; and oh what an experience it has been. No amount of words or photos or video footage can quite capture it. It has changed and challenged me physically, emotionally, spiritually and every which way possible. And I must honestly say, it has made me all the better for it.

Each of you have given me the visceral experience of carrying a life within me and the indescribable experience of giving birth to that life. It was, at times, cumbersome, trying, and painful – but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world – the memories of those moments are simply too precious.

I recall holding each of you for the first time, and that surge of love and affection that welled up in me, even though I felt as though I could sleep for 10 years. Each time I held one of you, I knew I was yours forever, no matter what happened, and that I was committed to do whatever it took to help you to be happy.

Come to think of it, that simple conviction is quite empowering – even without knowing what the future holds, not knowing your personality, your strengths, or weaknesses I still could say, “I love you, and will love you forever,” and mean it today, tomorrow and forever. Because of you I have had a glimpse into eternity.

Flash forward a few years. You have helped me make good on my promise to you. My heart has grown, my love has deepened. I have learned that my love is not contingent on if you make it to the potty on time, or if you each your veggies, or if you eat at all. My love is there for the good and the bad, the happy and the sad.

My love is not just soft and warm, it is at times hard and stern. I’ve learned to consider long term needs over short term gains.  So even if you stamp your feet at me, call me mean names, and cry great big tears, I will insist that you brush your teeth before bed.

Flash forward even a few more years, and I can see what it means to love without expecting in return. I give my love, even when all you have for me is cold stares and sarcastic retorts. I will continue to insist on reinforcing the values that I know will help you become a good man and woman, even if you don’t want to hear the sound of my voice.

Even after such storms, my arms are always ready to embrace you after a tough day, my ears always ready to listen to your stories and my mind available to think through solutions. And when words fail, I’m ready to cook you a meal to comfort your heart with a little extra fatness and sweetness.

Flash forward even further, I can imagine holding my grandchildren. It’s mind blowing to imagine seeing a part of what dad and I began continue through another lifetime and then another – seeing forever in a living, breathing form. Even more, the moment captures how another’s happiness really does complete mine.

Yes, everything I do, from the food that I eat, to the movies that I watch, to the thoughts I think and the words that I use, even when I’m angry, to even the values that I have come to understand are the most important – I think of each of you first. I think of what will last and what will make you happiest.

I look in the mirror today, and I am different. And I am glad. Because of you I am a mother, and I can celebrate. So, on this day when you usually thank me – I want to thank you, my dear children.

I am so grateful to be your mother.

Love,
Mom